新一年讓人充滿積極改變、訂立新目標和重整舊目標的決心。但為甚麼大多數人在2月底就會失去衝勁？
沒有人會否認作出改變是困難的。我們是有規律的人，亦容易受社會壓力所影響。
那麼，為甚麼有些人能夠成功，但有些人卻會失敗？是因為動力起不了作用，而那些失敗的人是因為過於依賴它而導致失敗？
「我感覺充滿動力！」這句話你有多常說？沒錯，這還遠遠不夠。「我就是沒有動力去…填補空白…」這句話你有多常說？
動力是一個很好的訪客，但它只是過客。
以下有三個原因解釋為甚麽動力起不了作用，以及你該怎樣做才能成為今年的贏家。
1.動力多建基於一種情緒或感覺。有多少次閙鐘響起，你仍想繼續賴床、睡覺和不想去上班，但最後還是起床出門？假若我們完全按自己的感覺行事，我們可能就不會去工作、經營業務，甚至結婚。感覺來去如風，波動性大，若我們跟隨每一個突發的念頭行事，生活將充滿戲劇性。當我們要實行健康、減重及健身目標時，我們可以這樣做，只依靠動力去維持健康飲食和運動。但這不會成為一種生活方式、不會增加活力，或者帶來長久的效果。
相反，無論我們的感覺如何，我們都要為建立新習慣而堅持不懈。 這可使我們的生活方式得到改善。
Jim Rohn說：「如果我們做困難的事，生活就會變得容易。如果我們做容易的事，生活就會很艱難。」
參與團體責任，像師傅、團隊教練那樣，儘管會有些不便，但這是被證實有助我們堅持不懈的方法。
2.動力往往由外在驅動。 行為改變是短暫性的，動力通常由外來力量引起。成功的要訣是要讓動力從內而發，才能長久維持。
真正的啟發激勵來自你的內心、你的目標，以及你想要得到某種東西的理由。這才可讓你的動力持久，因為它們對你很重要！了解你想變得更健康的真正理由。為何你想變得更健康、窈窕和強壯？為甚麼減去多餘的脂肪對你來說是如此重要？是為了增強自信，成為一個更強大的自己？是為了要和兒孫在一起，並成為他們的榜樣？是因為你知道自己想要獲得更多，知道需要強壯的身體才能實現這些夢想？又或者，你已經到達了「到此為止」的地步，厭倦了這種「煩厭」的感覺。
當你專注於這些原因時，它們會成為燃燒你內心熱情的燃料。這和外在驅動的動力不一樣。當然，即使它有點過時，但我們仍然需要它。找到你想要的激情和理由，你就可以激發內在的決心。
3.動力需要每日補充，但學習可以維持一生。有時它是一句名言、一首歌、一個故事、一幅畫，或者是一段YouTube短片，這都可以讓我們朝著正確的方向前進。我們突然會有衝動想去做一件從未做過的事。這並不是一件壞事，而且要好好利用它。事實上，要有目的地利用它。為甚麼？因為動力就像一杯香醇咖啡，需要不斷續杯。
用喜愛的音樂、目標宣言或夢想板來激勵你展開新一天。但是，只有你選擇向知識作出投資，如午餐時閱讀我們的TLS日誌、聆聽錄音檔、收看我們的教學短片、參加網上講座或訓練，你才會建立永久性的改變。當你理解到為甚麼要對生活作出改變，它才會真正變成永久。拓展思維永遠是最可靠的投資。
策略二是要把動力放在心上，策略三是好好記住它，而策略一是兩者都沒有做到。
當你發現自己失去動力，或者不再著重奬勵，記住你的理由、調整自己，以及做你需要做的事，即使你不喜歡做。這樣，你的啟發激勵就會湧現。
願你的新年目標成真。
你值得擁有！
Melanie Nelson
TLS銷售總監
The New Year is filled with making positive changes, new goals or re-shaping old ones. Why is it that most people seem to lose stream by the end of February?
No one will argue that change is difficult. We are creatures of habit and are prone to social pressure.
So why do some people succeed and others faulter? Is it that motivation doesn’t work, and those that faulter, make the mistake of relying on it?
How often have you said the words; “I feel so motivated!”? Exactly, not nearly enough. How often have you said the words, “I’m just not motivated to… fill in the blank…?
Motivation is a nice visitor, but she is a fleeting one.
Here are 3 reasons why motivation doesn’t work and what to do about it so you can win this year
1.Motivation is often based on an emotion or feeling. How often has the alarm gone off, you wanted to roll over, sleep in and not go to work, but you got up and went anyway? If we acted solely on how we feel, we probably wouldn’t have a job, a business or a marriage anymore. Feelings come and go, they fluctuate quickly, and life would be incredibly dramatic if we followed every whim. When it comes to our health, weight-loss and fitness goals, we can tend to do just that, rely soley on the feeling of motivation to eat healthy or exercise. This does not lead to a lifestyle, vitality or long-term results.
Instead, we need to engage in consistent actions that build new habits, no matter how we feel. This leads to an improved lifestyle.
“If we do what is hard – life becomes easy. If we do what is easy – life is hard” ~ Jim Rohn
Engaging in group accountability like master minds, team coaching etc… are proven ways to assist in taking consistent action despite inconveniences.
2. Motivation often comes from outside yourself. Behavior modification is temporary. Motivation is often caused by an external force. The trick to success is when it comes from within, then it is far more likely to last.
True inspiration comes from within your heart, your purpose, and your reason for wanting something. That has longevity because it is what matters to you! Explore the real reasons you want to be healthier. Why do you want to be fitter, leaner and stronger? Why is it important to you to lose those unwanted pounds? Is it to feel confident and be a more powerful version of yourself? Is it because you want to be around for your kids, grandkids and lead by example? Is it because you know you were meant for more and you know you will need your body and energy to achieve those dreams? Or maybe, you have hit the “enough is enough” point and you are “sick and tired” of being “sick and tired”.
Those reasons why are permanent fuel that is ignited within you when you focus on them. Unlike motivation, which is like an external kick in the butt! Sure, we need it, but it can get kind of old. Find the burning passion and reason you want what you want, so you are inspired from within.
3.Motivation needs to be refilled every day, but education lasts a lifetime. Sometimes it’s a quote, a song on the radio, a story we heard, a picture we saw, or a short youtube clip that gives us a little push in the right direction. We suddenly feel motivated to do something we weren’t before. This isn’t a bad thing and be sure to use them. In fact, be purposeful about using those tools. Why? Because Motivation is like a good cup of coffee, it needs a refill. Constantly.
Start your day off right with your favorite music, and your goal statement or dream board to get you up and motivated to start the day. But it is when you choose to invest in deepening your well of knowledge, like reading from our TLS Journal at lunch, listening to podcasts, watching our educational videos, attending live seminars or online training, you will create permanent change. When you understand logically why you are creating a change in your life – it is far more likely to become permanent. Expanding your mind is an investment you can always count on!
Strategy Number two keeps our heart in the game, number three keeps our head in the game, and number one is for when neither are in the game.
When you find that your motivation has waned, and you have taken your eye off the prize, remember your reason why, educate yourself and do what you need to do, even when you don’t feel like it. If you do, your inspiration will overflow!
May your new year’s resolutions become your reality.
You are worth it!
Melanie Nelson
Director of TLS
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